The Invisible Grief & Loss Of Adoption

I never once was taught from the early age of my adoption how to mourn & grieve my first initial loss that ended up effecting my entire life. I think because we are babies, the world around us was incapable of understanding the dynamics of this replacement mother/baby switch, believing we as children didn’t have anything to grieve.  Adoptees are looked upon as a blessing in someones else’s life, while our own personal trauma from it goes unnoticed, ignored or dismissed, acting as if this loss never happened to us.

The Invisible Grief & Loss Of Adoption

I never once was taught from the early age of my adoption how to mourn & grieve my first initial loss that ended up effecting my entire life. I think because we are babies, the world around us was incapable of understanding the dynamics of this replacement mother/baby switch, believing we as children didn’t have anything to grieve.  Adoptees are looked upon as a blessing in someones else’s life, while our own personal trauma from it goes unnoticed, ignored or dismissed, acting as if this loss never happened to us.

i gave up the narcissistic tendency of sabotage for enlightenment

sometimes its imperative to have to deal with the recent death metaphorically of a relationship that is no longer viable in order to out struggle yourself from the vice grips that it once had you in..its hard saying goodbye to people you love for reasons unrepairable, but ignoring the reasons why, and sabotaging its existence instead, is never the answer nor the complete truth..it …

i had a filthy love affair for a “DIRTY MIND”

as the world mourns and honors the great “PRINCE” of everybody’s generation, I reflect back to my own personal middle school years and remember the impact he had on developing my musical evolution..i don’t think my parents were so thrilled to hear the musical lyrics that was blaring out of my room at the age of 12 or the inappropriate dance moves that came along with the …