Here we go again, the beginning season of sloppy resolutions that people begin to make for the upcoming “NEW YEAR” followed by empty promises and a lot of noise and chatter while signing up for shit that they never intend to finish..Ive been watching just the fitness ones from my thrown of the stair machine I climb daily at planet fitness with loads of newbies piling in, hungry for the change..
Then week 3 rolls around and they begin to drop like flies until one day “POOF” they are gone and the gym is restored back to its usual self..Everything new is fun, until it becomes work or a challenge asking of your undying discipline and commitment..It requires your time and energy on a daily basis to show up and do the work required for your intended outcome and not just because its the new year..
A lot of times people give up in the newborn stage expecting perfection while finding out that results don’t happen over night and if your not dedicated to the program or the intentions, it all goes to shit..It is a valid indicator about some ones character and how they really feel about themselves in general (which alone makes you prey), where they are coming from and where they desire to be..
Truth is, a lot of people don’t have the stamina or will to truly do the inner and outer work together that is needed to survive a resolution any time of the year..Its close to difficult to stick with a plan and see it through when there are so many ways to fall of the course and revert back to the old pattern ways that are comfortable and easy..Lots of people will cheer you on in a passive aggressive way making it nearly impossible to succeed without some sort of loss in itself..
That alone can set you up for destructive ideas, thoughts and behaviors because you need healthy support and nourishment when starting any thing new if you plan on it having longevity and stamina..people want to see you do good things as long as it doesn’t cost them losing you to becoming someone new in the outcome (no one wants to be the last man standing)..
I believe that is probably one of the hardest obstacles to maneuver is finding your balance between the achievement of a resolution and people on the outside of it while finding a way to make it now work for you..A person looking to give up a habit in exchange for a healthier outlet that their entire circle participates in, will need to leave the habit and the circle if they want to succeed..that’s just the logic and reality of it..
The first week you will want to look like a hero, doing something “different” so the motivation will be fuel with the ego instead of the ingredients needed for change..The second week gets hard because it requires of you to take some inventory along with a harder looks at yourself, while your watching every one else do the thing your changing..The third week you have already cheated and are ready to go back into the circle of comfort with worse feeling than when you began your sloppy resolution..
How man times have you promised yourself something and never made it to delivery? How many times did you swear to change only to become worse out of resentment and anger? How many times did you believe something spoken 12 different ways out of the voice of the person who was never going to change? How many programs have you subscribed too but failed to even look at the content being delivered because you couldn’t be bothered? How many times was to many because you simply lost count..
They key to any kind of success is the stamina, determination, focus willingness and drive associated with the process regardless of the obstacles and road blocks because you will have to keep getting back up..manage your expectations and find someone who will really help get you to where you want to be and not just there to take your money..There are so many con artist dressed as gurus of a trade out to screw the consumer for cash, so again, DO YOUR HOMEWORK..
Create and make a viable a plan before you go cold turkey, review your past year and research, research, research what it is you wish to change and if it is even feasible to do in the environment your currently residing in..sometimes its the simplest unassuming things that require the most attention and any thing of value or worth while takes time and patience..peace love faith hope <3 <3 <3