Last week I was doing my clients nails who is well into her 80’s and she was telling me a story about her dining experience at her assisting living place the left her laughing..i was floored at the story about how the woman in her community still engage in the middle/high school bully behavior of not allowing someone outside their social circle to sit at their table purposely behaving and acting like mean girls with 80 year old wrinkles..
The truth is regardless of all the light that has been shed on the topic bulling, I don’t think that its any different now then it was back when I was growing up..the biggest difference that I see now a days is that you have the opportunity to smear it all over social media both glorifying a victim and an asshole in the single click of a button because attention is attention no matter what form it comes in..
social media has become the largest offender and has made it possible for anyone to rally against another and annihilate you publically whether the information is correct or not..you just need a sensitive topic with a story and you can create a media frenzy in a split second because we are overly stimulated to feel sensitive and react to everything that goes on that conflicts us..we have no coping tools for this style of behavior because it is extremely foreign to us post 2007..
we have somehow managed to train our children into entitled assholes instead of teaching them COPING TOOLS and SKILLS..we have forced them to behave in a manner that “sharing is caring” which in the real world, it really isn’t..im pretty sure if went up to a person who was driving the Gwagon Mercedes with a temper tantrum that i didn’t have one (waa waa) and decided to take the truck without permission for a joy ride because sharing is caring, id be in jail for grand auto theft..
We have taught our children to believing that their rewards in life should be bigger than their effort, (how many of you have done their work for them) applauding the mediocre and that everyone is a winner even if one hasn’t earned that right..part of this bully mentality comes from your actual home with parents who dictate and control every physical emotional spiritual move of their kids behaving like the grand master of all bullies..have I struck a nerve yet?
The amount of BS one subscribes to has taken us away from the fundamentals of our own home front leading us to point the finger everywhere else but here..we blow more smoke up unqualified peoples asses who truthful don’t deserve the platform to which they soap box on because social media has given the opportunity to make every one relevant for their 15 minutes of social media fame..
What you allow, will continue no matter the shape and form to which it comes and happens in..you want change for your children and society, you better muster up the courage to take a long hard look in that mirror of yours and see who you really are in all transparency..there is nothing more unattractive than someone talking the talk on social media or in their group of soldiers who doesn’t walk their talk at all..peace love faith hope <3 <3 <3