ahhhhh… the new year is approaching quickly and the chirping sound of peoples “resolutions” is amongst the background chatter with all the promises of breaking habits because shit, its a BRAND NEW YEAR..this is it, this is the year I succeed until of course it gets REAL, real quick ..then one week later and a million and one excuses why, your tumbling backwards quicker than before..
its super easy to air talk someone a bullshit series of excuses as to why being committed to changing something is difficult..most people have a very warped sense of reality and are accustomed to a quick fix change that takes them from point A to point K without having to do a thing, learning absolutely nothing about the process of hard work in between and no accountability what so ever for the lack of participation and negative behavior..
most people give up in the early stages because they are quickly depleted and more importantly begin to resent the change being thrown upon them no matter who suggested the resolution in the first place..some peoples intentions are very heroic and real in the past tense bubble but when the present time appears, it becomes to much to take on and handle for someone who is weak minded and seriously struggling with no support and encouragement around them..
I met a lady at the gym a few years ago, who lost roughly around 180 pounds or more BY HER SELF without using a program over a coarse of 2 years..the first time I saw her on the machine I thought holy shit, good for her, no matter how hard it was for her and how slow and sluggish she moved, she just SHOWED UP every single solitary day..she never smiled at me, smelled like cigarette smoke but was committed to the gym and the process she had set for herself..
one day finally after weeks of smiling at her with nothing ever in return, she finally smiled back and I made a break through..i started to work out next to her on purpose because I wanted to peal those layers and see the authenticity of her soul and her genuine spirit..it turned out she was a victim of circumstance and decided she needed to change her life..she arrived at getting it, and what that was going to demand of her in return, god bless her!
her husband on the other hand was trying to sabotage her and was not supportive at all being obese himself, while shaming her for wanting to do this..he would purposely cook meals or carry in food that was a total deterrent for her weight loss trying to lure her back into her old body..she continued to push ahead with her healthy route and shed more pounds then ever imagined..it was a beautiful transformation that I got to witness first hand when you connect the mind body and spirit together!
she left my gym eventually to join powerhouse because it offered her more equipment, classes and a pool to maintain and continue her journey of self..the last time I ran into her she had kept the weight off and was still working out daily as part of her regimen with a new makeover to match her brand new self..i have profound respect for her and the ability to overcome daily obstacles that im sure at times where overshadowed by the haters to her personal change..
when you manage your resolutions to the ability that you are able to maintain it, you create healthy expectations that allows you to achieve the goals that you have set..if your looking to quit a habit that took over 20 years to have, it might take longer than a couple of days that somehow you seem to think will magically disappear over night..ever habit that has been created, needs time, effort, stamina and a strong mind to break and then some..
most people forget when making a new years resolution, that their currant environment may not be so supportive and encouraging and that sometimes is your biggest offensive tackle yet..those are some of your greatest obstacles because it forces you to not only change yourself, but it also demands of you to take a real look around your circle and change that as well, which could be a real Debbie downer in the meantime process..
find someone you look up too or admire, that can give you outside honest advice that is not family or friends..those people might not want to see you really change in the end when it forces a group dynamic change leaving you potentially as an outsider..don’t give up on yourself because it gets hard and becomes a true source of pain, that is where you are redefining your cellular makeup creating new divisions of profoundness in your mind body and spirit that is in the process of reshaping itself..
any thing worth something comes with a price of some sort, and anything of value has the potential to cost something in return..if you are committed to the pursuit of your resolutions for happiness, health, joy, peace and love the reward in the end will always justify the means and out way all that you gave up in the beginning of your journey..best of luck..peace love faith hope