I was reading an article that someone had shared on facebook the other day and it got me to thinking about expired relationships, and why some people choose to hold on to them after they are completely emotionally extinguished..im not a relationship expert and in fact I really sucked at it for a long while, im just simply fascinated by our human nature and people in general..
I have watched and witnessed first hand the behavior of people going threw motions in their life emotionless trying their best to fake a better appearance possibly tricking those around them or themselves for that matter of the happiness they are trying to portray as their eyes say otherwise..i have been one of those people myself so I am quite secure to write such a thing since I myself walked a path of being lost and depleted in a relationships that i couldn’t leave for whatever reason and stayed in longer than I ever thought I would..
In truth i actually stayed in a relationship with myself that was toxic much longer than I ever should have and it wasn’t until the last decade I started to clean and purify my state of personal emotional mental spiritual affairs that it started to apply to my outer world without apology..i aloud myself to become blind and deaf to my intuition that at times is your radar for unacceptable behavior that I had turned off a long time ago leaving a numbness to my spirit not really caring or feeling what was going on with my full participation..
I had a reason and an excuse for my attitude and behavior personally and stood by it protecting it so I wouldn’t have to be accountable and take ownership..sometimes we stay because we don’t know any better or different based on our tools and knowledge of self worth and personal freedom from how we were raised and groomed..
sometimes we stay based on many layers of fear that have been instilled and ingrained in our DNA with our life patterns creating a cement force around the idea of questions that might lead you astray from the misinformed historical legacy of ancestors your currently following..sometimes many times, its work and people just don’t want to put in the time and do the work so they quick fix it hopping the cracks aren’t too apparent while creating more problems..
when a relationship is expired, depleted, running on an empty tank and you choose to continue to remain available for participation in this dry pool of affairs, you are going to be and get very thirsty for substance over time if not immediately..sometimes we stay because we have been so programmed by emotional trauma and abuse that we believe within the darkest broken parts of us that we somehow deserve this type of behavior we believe to be love..
then there are those who hold onto the relationship long past the expiration date because they don’t want anybody else having the other person slowly destroying the heart and soul of each other..these are the people who are so completely distorted in perception and covered in toxic ick that it becomes impossible to be able to see the clarity of behavior patterns that lead to the path of self destruction..
I had a person tell me one time I was nothing without them, and the truth was, they were nothing at all inside the get up or the rodeo I was being the circus clown in, but I believed them for whatever that was worth at my time..the truth was in that instant, I was nothing without myself and that was exactly what I had become to others holding me along the path of relationship navigation..
so why do people stay in expired relationships? truth, people have a hard time with honesty and usually there is a financial connection that may limit their decision to leave..so they stay and make the best out of their empty heart filling it with items and busy stuff so the ultimate core emotion is foggy and faint..
why do people choose to stay in expired relationships, because its hard to change when you are surrounded by so many people giving advice that might not have your best interest at all and opinions that validate the fear you are thriving in..truth is, nobody wants to be the bearing of bad news and end something that has a lot of history, but by neglecting your own power of truth you distort the situation digging a deeper hole that you might not ever recover from..
as a person who left a couple of expired relationships, hurting myself more by staying and being untruthful and dishonest with my heart was no longer an option of my integrity but the force that drove me to walk away with the ability to hold my head up..letting go of people who you no longer have a relationship connection to not only allows you to be REAL but allows them to grieve heal and move forward with their own life possibly finding the beauty of the metaphorical death by be able to begin again..
for every door that closes, one will begin to open, for every connection that is broken, you allow the ability for another connection to made, for every ending to a relationship, you have the opportunity to learn grow and find the opportunity to receive another..the universe is a powerful force that navigates according to your energetic compass serving you situations that teaches you the lesson you were on a soul level contracted to learn, and by holding on to expired relationship you forgo and loose the essence to what the circle of life is all about..
what is your excuse as to why you hold on to expired relationships and how is it serving you while trying to fuel your emotional and spiritual tank? nothing is ever fair, and can be devastating at times, but the real tragedy for yourself is holding on to something that no longer hold for you back a life force they feel worth keeping..peace love faith hope