we paid 10 dollars to get married at the court house, can you fucking believe that..no fairytale wedding to go along with our fairytale story..by choice.. no sit down meal, no open bar, no dancing, no cocktail hour, no rabbi, no wedding dress, no tuxedo, no groomsmen, no bridesmaid, no chupa, nope nada nothing..it was the most valuable well spent 10 bucks I think either one of us has ever spent in our entire lives, seriously..10 dollars and 5 years later, I think we made out pretty well with that decision many years ago if I can say so myself, not to mention that the bank account never suffered from this expense as well..
when my husband Eran came to the states, we needed to find out how he could go about legally working here and what we needed to do in order for that to happen..I called Jewish federation in our community to get some much needed help with some of the questions we had pertaining to him staying here..they suggested for us to get married after I explained our situation and story, and then to call them about a month later to start to process of his green card application for immigration..
shrugging our shoulders like fuck it, we set a date regardless of all the spit fire that was happening around us and called the novi court house and 3 weeks later on 3-2-11..blastoff we were officially MARRIED..now you have to understand, we had a couple of dear friends that were so utterly supportive and gracious that we wanted them to be apart of our wedding day but other than that besides a few people, nobody knew what we had decided to do, except his whole family in Israel..id like to say that part of my family here were loving, supportive and kind, but I found myself getting abandoned by the choices I was making that some disagreed with and it ended up making massive waves leaving me deserted on a island of our own..
sometimes, you MUST be willing to sacrifice things in order for other things to take precedence, and you end up unfortunately in the process finding out the authenticity of the truth while you are walking your path proudly..you might be fought with protesters and picketers and that’s ok, its character building for you and your journey..you might be abandoned for your willingness to commit to something outside the comfortable beliefs of others, and that’s ok too, it teaches you how to survive in your own accord becoming unfuckable with because in the end it has nothing to do with you and only about the people on the other side of the equation..if you truly believe with all your heart in something, you will not allow somebody else the ability to stand in your way period..unfortunately by taking such a stand, you will suffer consequences for your beliefs regardless of it being a right or a wrong and that is sadly just part of life sometimes..
I learned a lot about what it means to live freely authentically proudly, even if i was married again for 3rd time and didn’t care how it was being presented or look upon..i was deeply happy for myself for the first time, without thinking about every body elses happiness before my own..yes, I became rightfully selfish and stood up for my selfishness in the most undeniable way..i am a SURVIVOR of being sabotaged in the process of my soulful evolution and union, and looking back even though it was heart retching at that time to be ridiculed, horribly spoken about, alienated, abandoned, disrespected, violated, shamed for my love, I wouldn’t change any of it ANY OF IT, because as always……………… L O V E W I L L A L W A Y S W I N